If you’re a new blogger just like me, or even if you’ve been blogging for a while, it can be difficult to establish your own voice and direction for your blog.
I started my blog just over a month ago now. Even though I feel like I haven’t even scratched the surface of establishing it properly yet, or generated the beginnings of a readership, there have been hours poured into it. Hours of doing very important and productive stuff like browsing WordPress blog themes, deciding whether a heading looks better in grey italics or black bold text, correcting grammar, resizing photos, and, probably most significantly, reading other people’s blogs and dealing with blog envy. ‘I think I want to be like her!’ ‘No, wait, I love how she writes, can I be like her?’ ‘Actually, I’ve never thought of that – maybe I’ll be her.’ (Newbie blogging tip #1: None of these things produce actual writing of blog posts).
It’s much like how we learn to be people. The nature or nurture of blogging. We model ourselves on other people and their personalities, behaviour, beliefs and experiences and use these to shape our own personalities, opinions and values. But still, somewhere in there underneath, there’s that little box of firecracker that makes us different from the rest. Better known as who we are.
And that’s the bit that makes us interesting. That’s the bit that makes people want to read us. It’s nice to share experiences, it’s flattering to love other blogs, it’s normal to inherit parts of those who surround us as we grow and change. But it’s not until we let that bit that’s uniquely us come out and stand up that we establish our own unique voice.
Much like life, some people will want to read us, and some people won’t. And that’s just fine.
There are loads of get happy lists out there, but what about things to avoid? If you’re struggling with the big, overall meaning of life and happiness and feeling like you’ll never get it all together, start small. It’s the little things that make a difference in the make you happy stakes. Continue reading →
WikiHow has published (with the help of 509 authors, at last count) an article titled ‘How to Be Happy – 12 Steps’. It’s literally the article the world has been waiting for, with pictures to match. The people in the illustrations are totally following the 12 steps and they are totally happy, they’re even doing double-thumbs-up! And all these people are wearing WikiHow t-shirts which clearly indicates exactly how they found their happiness. WikiHow = WikiWin! (Sorry).
There are loads of similar articles online on happiness – or how to be happy, how to achieve happiness, how to achieve balance, how to stay happy – which got me thinking about happiness. (I know – profound). Is happiness a state that we achieve? Once we’ve got it, that’s it? We’re happy, forever, and we stride around in rhythm to happy-stride-songs like ‘Help Yourself’ by Tom Jones and performing high kicks? Continue reading →
I’ve been hesitating on starting a series about style because:
a) I’m generally an awkward person. I have long arms, a gangly stance and I will often do things like attempt a sexy dance move that results in my arm doing a weird thing and hitting somebody in the head. (Beyoncé clearly never has this issue, I don’t understand what I’m doing wrong…)
b) I’m trying to save my pennies, so a little apprehensive of extra temptation to buy all of the things, everywhere, because ‘blog research’
c) I often forget to do things like paint my nails, iron my clothes and wash my hair (we all forget, right? Yes? No?… No?)
I don’t know if I can be stylish every day. I feel that this mountain may be too steep a slope to climb, particularly given I sometimes wear things like green round neck fleece jumpers and have hair that birds see as an attractive nesting place. Continue reading →